Karma In Life
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Karma Is a Chameleon
I get some dad gum tired of people talking about Karma: "Karma is a bitch. At least karma will take care of it. My karma ran over your dogma." Everyone in America seems to parrot some line about karma when someone else does them wrong. Most have no idea what they are professing when they use this term. Rote has made it virtually meaningless to the popular culture of the United States.
Yes, I'm sure when some people refer to karma as punishment for someone's wrong, they mean "that person deserved that." However, what do Christians truly mean when they profess a believe in karma? Aren't they actually saying they believe that "what goes around, comes around"?
Karma (from the Sanskrit word karman, meaning "to act") is defined as "the total effect of a person's actions and conduct during the successive phases of the person's existence, regarded as determining the person's destiny." Those who believe in karma believe the effect of one's actions brings upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation.
Karma is a religious belief system adopted by Hindu, Jain, Sikh and Buddhist philosophies. In Hinduism, maintaining good karma is one means of reaching Brahman -- the eternal, unchanging, infinite, immanent, and transcendent reality which is the Divine Ground of all matter, energy, time, space, being, and everything beyond in the Universe. Now that is quite a thorny affirmation.
The theory of karma is all about the cycle of cause and effect. Actually, karma is not about punishment or reward. To believers, an understanding of karma makes a person responsible for his own life and how he treats other people. This belief also dovetails into a person's self-determination and strong will power to abstain from inactivity because his actions, both good and bad, come back to him in the future, helping him to learn from life's lessons and become a better person.
The belief differentiates human beings from other creatures of the world. Karma extends through one's present life and all past and future lives as well. The law of karma also states that the actions performed in previous births play a crucial role in future births. So, karma involves keeping a running tab of accountable actions throughout multiple lives.
According to karma, a person cannot escape from his actions. Good deeds will take a person closer to bliss on earth (Moksha) and bad deeds lead to suffering. Karma thus serves two main functions within Hindu philosophy:
1. It provides the major motivation to live a moral life, and
2. It serves as the primary explanation of the existence of evil.
Many Hindus believe the soul, at death, is carried by a subtle body into a new physical body which can be a human or non-human form (an animal or divine being). The goal of liberation (moksha) is to make people free from this cycle of action and reaction, and from rebirth. (Gavin Flood, "Hindu Concepts," BBC, August 24 2009)
The theory of karma harps on the Newtonian principle that every action produces an equal and opposite reaction: every time people think or do something, they create a cause, which, in time, will bear its corresponding effects. And this cyclical cause and effect generates the concepts of the world (samsaru), birth and reincarnation. It is the personality of a human being (the jivatman),with its positive and negative actions, that causes karma.
In karma, everything affects everything else. In The Secret Doctrine Blavatsky does not see karma as a mechanical "eye for an eye" law at all. She sees karma continuously restoring the harmonious state of the cosmos whenever it is disturbed. She calls it "the source, origin and fount of all the laws which exist throughout Nature".
The theory that humans live in an interconnected, interdependent universe in which all things everywhere exist in a complex and dynamic web of interrelationships, is fast gaining acceptance in philosophical and scientific circles. This is in tune with the underlying essence of the karma doctrine.Its fundamental aspect is its balancing role in nature.
The karmic law is more organic than deterministic.Aldous Huxley reminds us that the karmic equivalence of action and reward is not always obvious and material. "The bad man in prosperity may, unknown to himself, be darkened and corroded with inward rust, while the good man under afflictions may be in the rewarding process of spiritual growth," says Huxley.( P. Prabhath, "Hinduism -- Understanding the Workings of Karma,"www.lifepositive.com)
According to the ways of life chosen by a person, his karma can be classified into three kinds:
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
America: Dumbing Down...Down...Down
Why do many Americans show arrogance about their lack of knowledge? The problem is not just the things we do not know (consider the one in five American adults who, according to the National Science Foundation, thinks the sun revolves around the Earth); it's the alarming number of Americans who have smugly concluded that they do not need to know such things in the first place. According to Susan Jacoby, , this attitude is known as "anti-rationalism -- a syndrome that is particularly dangerous to our public institutions and discourse." (Susan Jacoby, "The Dumbing Of America," The Washington Post, February 17 2008)
"Dumbing down" is a perceived over-simplification of education, news, and television (among other things), or a commonly accepted view of real cultural trends in education and culture. People associate "dumbing down" with a decline in creativity and innovation; a slide of artistic, cultural and intellectual standards; and even attempts to undermine or trivialize cultural, artistic, and academic creations. (John Algeo & Adele Algeo, "Among the New Words," American Speech, 1988)
The American system of public education has been repeatedly accused of "dumbing down" curriculum in the wake of poor student achievement and creating a society full of undereducated individuals. To account for critical demands of improvement by the public, states have initiated proficiency tests and have implemented special graduation exit requirements.
One might ask how much of this "dumber" view of modern America is used deliberated by the social engineers to create an educational crisis in order to move their agendas forward by offering radical reforms that can be sold to the public as magic bullets for fixing the crisis -- which they seem never to do.
Charlotte Thomson Iserbyt in her book, The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America, (1999), says, "The new reforms simply set the stage for the next crisis, which provides the pretext for the next move forward. This is the dialectical process at work, a process our behavioral engineers have learned to use very effectively. Its success depends on the ability of the 'change agents' to continually deceive the public, which tends to believe any lie the experts tell them."
Is America, in fact, "dumbing down"? Based on their past experience, most of the older generation would readily answer "yes." However, how much of this view is complicated by the vast expanse of new knowledge and the advent of the computer age and its impact on what is essential knowledge?
Consider the importance of a skill many consider very important -- cursive writing. Carl Brown, principal of Manatee Elementary in Viera, Florida contends,"With all the other subjects we must teach, we just don't have the time to spend a lot of effort on cursive." He claims that's a big change from years past when even he had to attend a summertime handwriting camp because of his illegible scrawl.
"Nowadays, parents would be pretty upset if we sent kids to handwriting camp," he said. "Kids just don't write letters now. They send e-mails or text messages. ... A lot of those old ways are going away. How many bills do you pay by writing a check anymore?" (Megan Downs, "Schools Debate: Is Cursive Writing Worth Teaching?" USA Today, January 23 2009)
A good question may be, "Without cursive instruction, how are the children going to sign a paycheck?" But, that question could be answered the sophistication of identification advances. Still, non-cursive writing students will hopefully be able to read the cursive document, the Declaration of Independence.
If America is "dumbing down," what is to blame? Many people blame various causes: media, television, computers, poor nutrition, lack of parental involvement in child rearing, schools from K-college, lack of reading skills, short attention spans, gluttony, materialism, the forgotten middle class, corporate brainwashing. It gets to be so overwhelming that the very ideas of understanding change and reforming become lost.
The signs are there. Without getting into discussions of politics, economics and other scholarly subjects, I will present some of my "pet" peeves that may serve as signals for "dumbing down."
1. Why does everybody have to get a trophy?
Today it seems awards for mediocrity are dished out repeatedly. At one time, if an individual or the team didn't win the top slots, they did not receive an award. Special meaning was attached to attaining the trophy. Now, everyone worries about the feelings of those who lose. Losing can teach valuable life lessons, but being rewarded when competition is the goal detracts from the purpose of the reward.
2. Why have we experienced the death of unbiased journalism?
Most get their news from television these days.When Rupert Murdoch, the chief executive of the News Corporation, donated $1 million to the Republican Governors Association this summer, he may have given an even bigger gift to its opponents. The Democratic Governors Association said its call to match the Murdoch contribution raised $1.7 million. Ginning up a fight with Fox News, which is owned by the News Corporation, “helped fire up the base,” said Nathan Daschle, the association’s executive director. (Brian Stelter, "Candidates Running Against, and With, Cable News," The New York Times, October 23 2010)
The topics, news spins, and opinions are clearly political on these networks, yet many Americans choose to believe the views presented in their favorite propaganda without comparing it to other, unbiased sources. It is rare to find real news without sensation and without interpretation. Too many rely on talking heads to spoon feed them meaning.
3. Why does a political party exist merely to make the other party fail?
Both the Democratic and Republican parties have engaged continuously in creating a bloated, power-grabbing “national” government at the direct expense of people's liberty and their property (through excessive taxes and confiscatory statutes). No candidate Republican or Democrat can run for office using the party label unless the party bestows that label upon him or her. And usually, the party itself and not the candidate raises and controls all the campaign funds. So, the parties, with discipline in the ranks, vote as a block. Add to that that lobbyists help fund re-election campaigns. A statesman encouraging bipartisanship? Forget it.
4. Why does everyone insist that drinking bottled water is better than drinking tap water?
Most purchased water is just tap water run through a special filtering system. But bottled water prices can run up to1,900 times the price of tap water. Why don't people purchase a filtration system for the house if they are that concerned?
Unlike tap water, where consumers are provided with test results every year, the bottled water industry is not required to disclose the results of any contaminant testing that it conducts. Instead, the industry hides behind the claim that bottled water is held to the same safety standards as tap water. Tests strongly indicate that the purity of bottled water cannot be trusted.
Researchers state: "Analyses conducted by the University of Iowa Hygienic Laboratory of these 10 brands of bottled water (brands not given) revealed a wide range of pollutants, including not only disinfection byproducts, but also common urban wastewater pollutants like caffeine and pharmaceuticals (Tylenol); heavy metals and minerals including arsenic and radioactive isotopes; fertilizer residue (nitrate and ammonia); and a broad range of other, tentatively identified industrial chemicals used as solvents, plasticizers, viscosity decreasing agents, and propellants." (Olga Naidenko, PhD, Senior Scientist; Nneka Leiba, MPH, Researcher; Renee Sharp, MS, Senior Scientist; Jane Houlihan, MSCE, Vice President for Research, "Bottled Water Contains Disinfection Byproducts, Fertilizer Residue, and Pain Medication," Environmental Working Group, October 2008)
5. Why do comedy shows such as America's Funniest Home Videos keep showing clip after clip of embarrassing groin shots?
Groin shots (nut shots, ball busters) debilitate the recipient. In brief, they are agonizing. Every man on this planet can tell you the date and circumstances surrounding the worst time that he got hit in the "boys." It’s not that funny when you are the recipient. Groin shots are terribly over-distributed on television and on the Net as hilarious comedy.
Notice, these video clips never show reactions of women being "groined." Evidently, that is not as funny or not as painful. Do women get a special charge out of watching a man in agony? To most men, even seeing a groin shot sends chills down his spine.
Here is what happens. A male's testicles have many nerves on them, which when struck cause extreme pain. Simultaneously, when a male is hit, the abdominal muscles contract, which causes loss of breath. A man also usually doubles over because of the muscle contraction and to prevent further damage to the testicles. The majority of pain occurs in the abdominal cavity, this is because the nerves run to the abdominal cavity, from which the testicles descended so it is where the pain runs. Some men also experience nausea, sometimes leading to vomiting. Often times there can be a persistent pain for anywhere from minutes to hours depending on the severity of the strike. Also, if a man's testicles are struck with sufficient force, the testicles can rupture, causing possible infertility and pain.
Shame on any man who suggests that a woman needs a boob job. And, shame on any woman who thinks she is inferior without one. Huge, enhanced, basketball-size breasts look very unusual to most. I sincerely believe most "breast men" even impose their own average limits.What is the thinking strategy of those who insist "bigger is better"? Do many women actually believe that a girl is more attractive or "more of a woman" with bigger breasts? Are most men rabid over humongous "knockers"?
OK, granted, when breasts start to lose their shape through age, the idea of having a boob job becomes a more and more realistic proposition. Having pert, solid breasts may be something that makes women feel more confident, and in our society that worships perfect female forms, it is unsurprising that so many women feel the need to 'fit in' with images shown on television, in film and in magazines.
Yet, isn't that still major vanity? Will implants on a woman's chest make a mate stop philandering, make the recipient more beautiful, or insure a woman's self-confidence? After all, sooner or later, gravity and time will sink the results of those operations. The proposed solution seems temporary, akin to belief in eternal youth.
Men will continue to stare at women's boobs and butts, but each man has his own ideas of perfection, not necessarily correlating with "super-size." The sexy concealment, the skill of sensual seduction, and the overall appeal of form create desire. Sexiness depends more on a woman's ability to use her brain than to rely on any other part of her body.
7. Why do many people believe so strongly in No Child Left Behind?
When the federal No Child Left Behind (NCLB) law was proposed, many believed a major improvement had been added to American education.The law requires schools to meet certain goals each year, based largely on students’ scores on tests like the ACT. Those schools that do not do so must take specifically mandated steps that may involve providing tutors, replacing school staff, restructuring or even privatizing the school.
In reality, NCLB has not been the biggest needed reform."The basic strategy is measuring and punishing," former Assistant Secretary of Education Diane Ravitch says of No Child Left Behind. "And it turns out as a result of putting so much emphasis on the test scores, there's a lot of cheating going on, there's a lot of gaming the system. Instead of raising standards it's actually lowered standards because many states have 'dumbed down' their tests or changed the scoring of their tests to say that more kids are passing than actually are." (Steve Inskeep, "Former 'No Child Left Behind' Advocate Turns Critic," NPR, March 2 2010)
Every state was able to define proficiency as it saw fit, which allowed states to claim gains even when there were none. Some states contend that 80 to 90 percent of their children are proficient readers and have math proficiency as well, Ravitch notes. But in the same states, only 25 to 30 of the children test at a proficient level on national tests such as the National Assessment of Educational Progress.
Many parents and students did not want to leave their neighborhood school, even if the federal government offered them free transportation and the promise of a better school. In California, less than 1 percent of eligible students in "failing" schools asked to transfer to another school; in Colorado, less than 2 percent did; in Michigan, the number of transfers under NCLB was negligible; in Miami, where public school choice was already commonplace, less than ½ of 1 percent asked to move because of NCLB.(Steve Inskeep, "Former 'No Child Left Behind' Advocate Turns Critic," NPR, March 2 2010)
NCLB offered free tutoring, but 80% turned it down. The tutoring agencies blamed the districts for not giving them space in the public schools, and the public schools blamed the tutoring agencies for demanding space that was needed for extracurricular activities. The tutors complained about the cost of liability insurance, and the districts complained that some of the tutoring companies were ineffective or were offering students gifts or money if they signed up for their classes. It also seemed likely that large numbers of low-performing students did not want a longer school day, even though they needed the extra help.
Yet adult interests were well served by NCLB. The law generated huge revenues for tutoring and testing services, which became a sizable industry. Companies that offered tutoring, tests, and test prep materials were raking in billions of dollars annually from federal, state, and local governments, but the advantages to the nation's students were not obvious.
8. Why are many teachers neglecting correction of errors in their students' spelling and grammar?
The English language has rules, structure, and formations for definite reasons. Spelling errors indicate both a lack of basic education and a lack of personal responsibility to detail. In short, right or wrong, many times a person is judged as ignorant or incompetent for blunders in spelling. Why not deal with reality and relay the truth to those seeking employment and common respect? And, now, with spell-check, how could someone beg an excuse for poor spelling skills?
Sure, in this world of online communications, hastily written texts and emails filled with spelling and grammatical mistakes are easily accepted in an individual's personal world. But they are still unacceptable in the business world.
Beth N. Carvin, chief executive of Nobscot Corp., a human-resources consulting firm, says, "Tell him (a poor speller) if he is serious about his ambitions, he can't risk being perceived by senior leaders as immature, illiterate or lacking attention to detail." (Toddi Gutner, "Can Poor Spelling Derail a Career?" The Wall Street Journal, September 1 2009)
9. Why do judges put so-called "deadbeat dads" in jail?
Is jail time going to help dad to pay child support? A man cannot seek employment when he is in jail. And jail costs money, as do court costs. If financial hardship is causing the father to be late with his payments, how are these extra costs going to help? Instead, make "deadbeats" work a job and garnish their wages.
10. Why does the History Channel, etc. show so many dumb programs about Nostradamus and his predictions?
Connecting up events with Nostradamus’s predictions after the event … isn’t prediction.
11. Why do American audiences squeal and cheer like fools when attending shows like the Ellen DeGeneres show or Jerry Springer?
This requires no explanation.
12. Why does America have a love affair with Starbucks?
Starbucks serves the OMFG COFFEE customer. This person is typically between 26 and 45, and relies on a double shot frappicino no-whip low fat extra mocha latte to get them through their work day. If they don’t manage to get their drink, they will complain for no less than 10 hours that they can’t function without their overpriced, over-marketed cup of $6 coffee.
13. Why does the fashion industry feature models that look like skinny anorexics?
The issue has long haunted the industry going back to the 1990s when the waif look swept fashion and helped launched models such as Kate Moss. But even, even those standards of thinness no longer seem to apply. A veteran of dozens of fashion campaigns and magazine covers, Filippa Hamilton was allegedly fired by fashion house Ralph Lauren for being too fat. She is 5’10″ tall and weighs 120 pounds, measurements that she says are essentially unchanged since she was 15. Too skinny is sickly.
Ana Carolina Reston was an anorexic model who did not get help. She died after consuming only apples and tomatoes as her “diet plan,” leaving her 5’8” tall body weighing only 88 pounds at the time of her death. Similarly Luisel Ramos died after eating only lettuce and diet coke for 90 days. Both models were only in their early 20s.
14. Why do parents put their young children into beauty pageants?
Most parents believe that their children are the most beautiful in the world. And in the subjective minds of the parents, they may be right. However, a beauty contest requires the parents to face subjectivity. Some say they are entering a child "for the child's sake." They say they are helping the child by boosting self-esteem, poise, public speaking skills, tact, and confidence.
So young? Children in pageants can range in age from 2 to 10 years old. There are frequent bouts of hysterical crying and outbursts. Everyone has only one goal-to win, though the question is being asked, ‘Whose dream, or fantasy, is being played out?”
Parents can contribute to the sexualization of their daughters -- for example, by entering their 5-year-old daughter in a beauty pageant in which she and the other contestants engage in behaviors and practices that are socially associated with sexiness: wearing heavy makeup to emphasize full lips, long eyelashes, and flushed cheeks, high heels to emulate adult women, and revealing evening gowns.
Hair extensions poufed and shellacked, fake tans, false eyelashes, fake teeth (called ‘flippers,’ masking baby teeth), fake nails and often, fake smiles -- it's just too much.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
The Music Is My Special Friend
To me music has always been a blessed gift. The only times in my life I can remember resisting music were in the shackles of deep depression. I guess when I felt the worst, I didn't want my friend to get anywhere close to me. Maybe I felt as if I was protecting it from my terrible feelings. Whatever the case, I do love music. Music stirs my senses, offers kernels of meaning, and lifts my spirit. Yes, I guess it makes me high.
I've often thought of my musical addiction. And, believe me, music, in my case, is addictive. I feel the need to possess it, listen to it, share it, collect it, and cherish it. I am the guy who has a bazillion CDs that is always looking for the better sound. My ears lap up music at every opportunity. I simply cannot be satiated -- the desire is too strong. One great song makes me want the high of more and more music.
Some people simply don't understand this fanatical draw towards music. Questions about its utility and about its logical usage abound: "How could you possibly listen to all of those CDs? What do you do, listen to hours of music every day? All recordings sound the same, why would you buy a new version of something you already have? Isn't this type of spending for music a silly expenditure? Can't you just listen to the radio?"
The answer to all the questions above is "no." The love of music is an obsession I feel I must feed. I don't live in a mansion, drive an expensive sports car, have a boat or a motorcycle (no expensive "man toys"), and I never hope to travel the world. I can live my life through music, recall my past through music, and, to a certain extent, see my future through music. Meaningful songs become dependable friends in my life.
I started this addiction as a kid well over fifty years ago with Hit Parade 45 singles that I used to listen to on a portable RCA record player. Along came Johnny Horton, Harry Belafonte, Perry Como, Tennessee Ernie Ford, the remnants of the big band era, the first smidgens of rock. I played my limited pile of records over and over while I dreamed of being older and affording a never-ending collection. I think I can still sing every word of each song I bought from that era.
I continued collecting music in a time when one chart contained country, rock, instrumental, vocals, movie themes, cross-over, blues, R&B, spoken word, and anything else that slid into public consumption. What a great time for music from all genres. I purchased 45s, albums (then available in stereo or mono), and 8 tracks. No male driver would be caught without an 8 track of Johnny Cash's "Live At Folsom Prison," Jimi Hendrix's "Are You Experienced," Cream's "Disraeli Gears," and Bread's "Anthology" (reserved for romantic dates).
By the time I was 19, I was a veteran of the Folk era, of Rockabilly roots, of the American hippie sounds, and of the English Invasion. I had already seen Hendrix and the Doors in person. I had decorated my room with album covers. (What an absolutely dumb but sure way to ruin the great artwork) I was playing guitar in a rock band. And, I was constantly buying music. Needless to say, nothing could ease my consumptive musical appetite. I continues to crave music every day of my life.
I am pretty eclectic in my musical tastes. Rock, R&B, older Country, Folk, Americana, Country Rock, Blues, Reggae, Vocals, Big Band, Jazz, Standards -- I sample it all for my favorite songs. My theory is that a great song is timeless, no matter what style. Isn't "Moonlight Serenade" by Glenn Miller on par with "In My Life" by the Beatles or "Kiss From a Rose" by Seal?
I don't worry about the primary value of the recording -- whether it's the singer or the song. And, usually, I am attracted to the music first, then I contemplate the lyrics. Very seldom do I try to make sense of every aspect of a preferred recording; instead, I just listen to it and let the vibe of the music do its magic. I love songs of rhythm and songs of lyrical content.
The mood a song projects is very important to me. Yet, I don't categorize songs by by simple descriptions of an emotional effect such as "sad" or "happy." The palate of emotional hues in songs is infinite. The emotional content of a great song is what it is. It needs no critic's defense or explanation.
The experience or idea contained in a song may be important. Then again, it may be foolish, depending upon the encounter. I mean I love "Wooly Bully" by Sam the Sham and the Pharaohs, and I love "The River" by Bruce Springsteen. To me one song is nonsensical and the other deeply reflective. The important aspect of theme is that each song offers a fresh insight, whether that new view is scattered or chiseled.
I prefer to have a song choose me as if it knows important intimate feelings I have and as if it knows the personal history of my life. A favorite song perfectly fits me, and I long for that quality much like a lover longs for a mate. The power of its seduction should not be measured on any scale, rather it should be thoroughly explored and enjoyed.
If people are willing to choose a sensuous but healing addiction, I suggest they inject some music. The catalog and the knowledge awaiting the novice are endless. The cost can be pricey, but I always compare it to the cost of smoking. Enjoying the hobby of music is much less expensive than buying and smoking cigarettes and much better for your physical well being. I hope my music remains accessible to the end. No doubt, my musical obsession is alive and well today.
What Others Say
"It's really about living in your head... just looking out at the world, then going back into your head and tossing around a lot of ideas and coming out with something interesting to say." -Lucinda Williams
"Music is everybody's possession. It's only publishers who think that people own it." -John Lennon
"Without music to decorate it, time is just a bunch of boring production deadlines or dates by which bills must be paid." -Frank Zappa
"I'm going to Graceland
For reasons I cannot explain
There's some part of me wants to see
Graceland
And I may be obliged to defend
Every love, every ending
Or maybe there's no obligations now
Maybe I've a reason to believe
We all will be received
In Graceland" -Paul Simon
For reasons I cannot explain
There's some part of me wants to see
Graceland
And I may be obliged to defend
Every love, every ending
Or maybe there's no obligations now
Maybe I've a reason to believe
We all will be received
In Graceland" -Paul Simon
"The world is filled with people who are no longer needed. And who try to make slaves of all of us. And they have their music and we have ours. Theirs, the wasted songs of a superstitious nightmare. And without their music and ideological miscarriages to compare our songs of freedom to, we'd not have any opposite to compare music with --- and like the drifting wind, hitting against no obstacle, we'd never know its speed, its power...." -Woody Guthrie
"I like to sing ballads the way Eddie Fisher does and the way Perry Como does. But the way I'm singing now is what makes the money." -Elvis Presley
"This land is your land and this land is my land, sure, but the world is run by those that never listen to music anyway." -Bob Dylan
“I started recording because I was always complaining about the records that I was getting of my songs At least if I did them and messed them up, I wouldn't have anyone else to blame." -Randy Newman
"I'd have to say that my favorite thing is writing a song that really says how I feel, what I believe - and it even explains the world to myself better than I knew it." -Jackson Browne
"At that time, though, I wanted to get a song done by Elvis Presley. But as I was leaving after meeting with Elvis, (Presley's manager) Col. (Tom) Parker followed me to the door and said, 'I guess we won't be seeing you here again.' I said, 'Oh, really?' Parker wanted only songs to which he could get full publishing rights, and I didn't need Elvis to record 'MacArthur Park.' It was already a number one hit. Col. Parker was a crude man." -Jimmy Webb
“Beware the lollipop of mediocrity; lick it once and you'll suck forever.” -Brian Wilson
"The song is the center; the song is the key. If you don't have a good song, you don't have anything by my value." -Carole King
"Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life." -Berthold Auerbach
“The best music is essentially there to provide you something to face the world with.” -Bruce Springsteen
"Music to me is spontaneous, writing is spontaneous and it's all based on not trying to do it. From beginning to end, whether it's writing a song, or playing guitar, or a particular chord sequence, or blowing a horn, it's based on improvisation and spontaneity. -Van Morrison
"For the music is your special friend
Dance on fire as it intends
Music is your only friend
Until the end" -Jim Morrison
"I don't know what you mean by 'country music.' I just make music the way I know how." -Hank Williams, Sr.
"Some songs have to do with my personal relationship with the Lord, others are about certain situations that I've gone through." -Smokey Robinson
“My thing was to out-Sly Sly Stone. Sly was definitely sly, and his sound was new, his grooves were incredible, he borrowed a lot from rock. He caught the psychedelic thing. He was bad. I could match him though, rhythm for rhythm, horn for horn.” -Norman Whitfield
"My mother would cry about my blindness and the hopelessness of my ever seeing, but I told her I wasn't sad. I believed God had something for me to do." -Stevie Wonder
"Music happens to be an art form that transcends language." -Herbie Hancock
"There's an edge to real rock 'n' roll. It's all that matters." -Neil Young
Are We Lost In the Deluge?
As much as we may like to ignore or to stop fighting the problem of drug abuse in Scioto County, Ohio, we have too much at stake to throw up our hands, sigh "oh, well," and walk away. When people first affirmed that the area was in deep water, we had already let bad things continue for too long. At first, we refused to believe that our environment was being sprinkled with pills. We should have acted sooner.
But, dealing with our own trouble and expecting meager help from the outside have always been parts of the fate accepted by those living in Appalachia. An independent lot, we assumed locals could keep a little shower of substance abuse under control. We were accustomed to rough times and had risen above them before. After all, Scioto County has been a depressed area since the atomic plant and the steel mill once boomed. Even though high school and college graduates by the hundreds left every year for other locales, we just assumed "times had changed" and a few clouds had set in.
True, we all recognized the signs of the impending storm -- the spread of Rx distribution, the rise of the pill mills, the ever-increasing toll from overdose, the endless destruction of local families, the rise of the numbers in rehab, the continual flow into the area of out-of-state license tags, the loss of jobs, the number of vacant homes, the terrible poverty rate, the defeated attitude of the people, the growing welfare state -- but for years and years, we all chose not to be proactive. Then came the tempest of death.
The rain of suffering we had weathered became a cloudburst of overdose. We soon realized the peril had risen from within our precious flood walls, which now served as a basin full of illegal activities and addiction. Left floundering in the dirty drink, we began to cry for help and to swim toward any sign of safety. This flood, was not one caused by Ohio River water like the great one of '37, but a flood caused by opioids and greed in the real world of a 21st Century Drug Nation.
Maybe you've been lucky enough to have someone save you and yours from the high water. Give grace for the lifesaver(s) that kept the good souls you love from sinking into addiction. Because if you don't believe the ones you love were in peril, you most certainly remain in denial. This time of crisis demands that you pass on favors to other needy individuals still adrift before they eventually drown. A hand may rescue future generations from abuse.
The task of bailing the damaging tides from the county is huge.Nothing can change the past, but everyone can use a vessel to help bail the flood from Scioto County. All of us have containers, some large and some small, that we must put to use in order to reverse the disaster. Without the help of everyone, a few face the unimaginable task. Yet, with the assistance of 80,000 residents, the numbers can steadily drain the brackish poison from our land.
Many of us safe on higher ground assume we have accounted for those closest so we can now rest assured life is safe. Don't be deceived because, gone unchecked, this surge will spread until even the hills are submerged. With the deluge came epidemics of terrible health problems such as hepatitis, social diseases, and brain damage. Many sources of our social stability lost root as the water rose. Even today, deaths continue to mount. We must repair the destruction and deal with it passionately, or the rotten agents will reach pandemic proportions.
In addition, we must effectively educate our youth because other violent storms of new and more powerful drugs are sure to strike. To leave them uninformed or misinformed is to leave them walking the lonely tracks that eventually lead to life-threatening addiction.We have to take measures to help anyone who may fall for the thrill, the high, or the money. We must realize that no matter if they are a valedictorian or a "bad kid in the class," they need education, support, and guidance in matters of substance abuse.
Finally, we must accept full responsibility for our own -- ALL of our own -- all of our fellow men, all of our own freedoms. Compassion is not limited to those with bloodlines or to those with monikers of "friend" or "good people." How can anyone stand put in the event of such a disaster?
Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well." Emerson's belief in Transcendentalism holds that material objects do not have any real existence or value of their own. He believed that a true sense of beauty depends upon seeing things in relation to a perfect whole. In order to do this, a human has to develop a relationship with nature and God. We could certainly learn from this view.
Love of money and desire for chemical happiness lead to destruction. Compassion and selfless action mark a joyous life well lived. Without true love for our downtrodden, we cannot preserve our own precious land or our own way of life. It is time to fill your sandbag and help stem the flow. The flood stage still ebbs....Many wait to see a rainbow.
"Then I said, 'I covet Truth;
Beauty is unripe childhood's cheat,—
I leave it behind with the games of youth.'
As I spoke, beneath my feet
The ground-pine curled its pretty wreath,
Running over the club-moss burrs;
I inhaled the violet's breath;
Around me stood the oaks and firs;
Pine cones and acorns lay on the ground;
Above me soared the eternal sky,
Full of light and deity;
Again I saw, again I heard,
The rolling river, the morning bird;—
Beauty through my senses stole,
I yielded myself to the perfect whole."
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Tiger Mother -- What Does It Take?
Amy Chua, Professor of Law at Yale Law School relates, "A lot of people wonder how Chinese parents raise such stereotypically successful kids. They wonder what these parents do to produce so many math whizzes and music prodigies, what it's like inside the family, and whether they could do it too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my daughters, Sophia and Louisa, were never allowed to do:
• attend a sleepover
• have a playdate
• be in a school play
• complain about not being in a school play
• watch TV or play computer games
• choose their own extracurricular activities
• get any grade less than an A
• not be the No. 1 student in every subject except gym and drama
• play any instrument other than the piano or violin
• not play the piano or violin."
(Amy Chua, "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," The Wall Street Journal, January 8, 2011)
In her article, "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," Chua states that Korean, Indian, Jamaican, Irish and Ghanaian parents qualify as "Chinese mothers," too. Yet, she claims some mothers of Chinese heritage, nearly always born in the West, aren't "Chinese mothers" by choice or otherwise. She claims to use the term "Western parents" loosely.
Chua believes most Western parents who claim they are strict with their children really aren't. She believes proper emphasis on child development is crucial and requires hard work, and most Western parents don't enforce this. For example, she tells of a study that shows Chinese parents spend approximately 10 times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children while Western children are more likely to participate on sports teams. She reports that "tons of studies" show marked differences between Chinese and Westerners in methods of child rearing.
One study Chua cites claims "of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that "stressing academic success is not good for children" or that "parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun." By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be "the best" students, that "academic achievement reflects successful parenting," and that if children did not excel at school then there was "a problem" and parents "were not doing their job."
Chua says Chinese parents understand "nothing is fun until you get good at it." She claims Western parents tend to give up when a child begins a difficult learning activity (math, piano, pitching) when they should have fortitude to overcome the child's preference not to work. She believes beginning to learn a difficult assignment is the most crucial time for parents to encourage continuance because the challenge for the child is the hardest then.
Chua believes once a child begins to excel at something through rote, repeated practice and is rewarded with praise and satisfaction, the child builds self-confidence and eventually this confidence makes the activity "fun." Chua calls the process a "virtuous circle."
Chua says Westerners believe some of the things that Chinese parents can do to their children is totally unimaginable, even illegal. For instance, Chua states, "Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, 'Hey fatty—lose some weight.' By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of 'health' and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self-image." (Amy Chou, "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,The Wall Street Journal, January 8, 2011)
Chua says Chinese parents can successfully use harsh reinforcement such as to call their children "lazy" or to demand the children get straight A's in school. In contrast Western parents are left struggling with conflicted feelings about their children's poor achievement. So, according to Chua, how do Chinese parents get away with it?
1. Western parents are extremely anxious about their children's self-esteem, their children's psyches, while Chinese parents assume the children's "strength not fragility."
2. Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything. The understanding is that Chinese children must spend their lives repaying their parents for the parents' long hours of sacrifice and caretaking by obeying them and making them proud. In the Western parents' mindset, "children don't choose their parents so kids don't owe their parents anything.
3. Chinese parents believe that they know what is best for their children and therefore override all of their children's own desires and preferences (even though they do care tremendously for their children).
Chua says that the distaste people have for child-rearing methods used by either Chinese parents or Western parents is a misunderstanding. Both sides want the child to become the best possible product, but the methods used are vastly different.
Chua concludes:
"Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits and inner confidence that no one can ever take away." (Amy Chua, "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," The Wall Street Journal, January 8, 2011)
Personal Conclusions
Having been a high school teacher for decades and a father of four, I see Amy Chua's article as an interesting insight into American parents' desires and actions for their children. Of course, in the Western view, strict Chinese parenting could lead to a child's deep psychological and emotion distress, even suicide. But these days, so many Western parents face criticism for complete lack of control of their children. Many, many times I have held conferences with distressed parents who claim they cannot control their youth at all. Just as many times I have been witness to undisciplined, "wild child" children suffer, even die.
To me, many of Chua's restrictions on her daughters were insensitive. If the children were that smart and that adjusted, it seems cruel to prevent them from participating in such things as social and school events.I wonder how they ever interacted with others.
To be callous or cruel toward children is wrong. Still, the older generation remembers many situations in their past that required their parents' immediate, strong-handed action. Face it, our parents, in most cases, were much more demanding of our good behavior. Add to that, this discipline is often cited as something now sorely missing from many parents' homes. Teachers say it; much research supports it. Schools complain that they simply are not allowed to discipline properly and point accusing fingers at indifferent parents.
Could Chua be convinced that a degree of balance could be reached with Western and Chinese parenting methods? I love to see children excel, and I know the hard work required by those who help them on the road to excellence. To let students lazily drift through their studies nets mediocre results.When I taught, I used lessons that required extension and built independence. I believed that preparation for the future was essential. It was a very difficult job. Still, I am not naive enough to believe the methods and mindset of Chinese education will ever become those of American education.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
We All Have Baggage
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again.
Wisely improve the present. It is thine.
Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear.
-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
-- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
All of us would like to drop our personal baggage and lose its weighty presence. Personal baggage is an accumulation of all the things that aren't right in our lives. Living and dealing with heaps of problems is inevitable. Although suffering is part of the human condition, we hope to eliminate much of the lingering effects of pain. The value of being brutally honest with ourselves is crucial. But even after all our attempts to lighten our attache, we still find a sizable pack to tote. We all have baggage, even the most well-adjusted, healthiest people have it. No one is exempt.
And how about the continuous nature of baggage accumulation? Psychological author Steve Wickham says, "Go the wrong way and we attract only more baggage, and such intricate little and bulky large bags, packages, cartons and parcels of fear-producing anxiety. Go the right way--the narrow path many do not take, for it involves its own pain--and we alleviate baggage, learning to live, eventually, a free life." (Steve Wickham, "Dealing With Emotional Baggage," ezinearticles.com, 2010) Well, maybe "going the right way" will not produce a "free" life, but maybe it will provide a life less encumbered.
Adding Our Heap to Another Heap
Just as important as lightening our personal charge, how can we hope to combine our baggage with that of someone else in a happy, successful relationship? Many people want to enter contracts of union that include drastic change. These people assume, once together, they can change one another through serious discussions about their pasts and their present personal desires.Yet, soon after romance fades, they return to reality and find that they are not going to effect change upon each other.
Ideally, we all should sort out own situations before entering into a marriage or into a serious relationship. We have no burden of responsibility to "fix" the one we love. And, our partner is not responsible for making us happy. The paradox is that we are responsible for our own happiness, and we should never blame others -- that realization is the absolute heavy burden. (Beth McHugh, "Is Your Personal Baggage Stuffing Up Your Marriage?" mental-health.families.com, 2011)
Our loved one simply cannot be our everything. To invest a totality of being in anyone involves adding loads to our dependence and slashing pieces of our self-esteem. When we realize this and a break up or a divorce is at hand, we feel threats to our spiritual health and develop tons of emotional baggage.
Too many of us want a "band-aid" for our most critical problems. The pain is so intense that we seek love instead of seeking help to end the pain, so when that love ceases to be enough anymore, the emotions flow to the top and the end result is divorce. Life blows that are destined to make us stronger weaken us if we take the wrong road to "healing."
Unpacking Your Own Baggage
Are we left to enduring the scars of history? Les Parrott and Neil Clark Warren, authors of Love the Life You Live, offer this helpful advice: "History is what has happened in our lives. Baggage is how we feel about it. Your psychological perspective on your past determines, to a great extent, your personal health and vitality." (Les Parrott & Neil Clark Warren, "Exploring Your Emotional Baggage," www.growthtrac.com, 2003)
Parrott and Warren suggest that we unpack our own baggage and explore what we feel and why we feel the way we do about our history. This does not mean we should wallow in the past and use it as a scapegoat. We merely need to get beyond our past. To identify, sort, and label emotions in this exploration can be a springboard to personal growth, self-insight, and maturity. This exploration can positively impact our physical well-being.
Conclusions
Personally, I believe no one can control any other human being. Each of us has unique qualities and a distinct past. To live a relatively comfortable life, we have learned personal means of adjusting and dealing with situations. Some of these reactions have developed into habits. Of course, we should seek to break bad habits, yet the successful attempts at doing so involve deep personal commitment and usually are only successful after the habitual individual hits the rock bottom.
As far as making a sinner into a saint or vice versa, I have many doubts about any real success. The release of the mold is in the hands of the individual. Certainly, help and guidance may offer support; however, without a sincere will to change, people, at best, modify self-chosen aspects of their lives. In short, we are what we want to be.
Some Ideas To Consider
These ideas actually came from advice about how to deal with trading stocks. (Forex Psychology, www.babypips.com) I think the points represent great advice for dealing with personal baggage. Similar investment and risk are involved in both areas.
1. We must accept that our plans will not always go as planned.
2. We must not assume that because something worked previously that it will have the same outcome.
3. We must accept that we will face loss one way or another. It's always going to be there.
4. We must accept that the past can't be changed.
5. We must move on and learn from a lesson, and then apply it to a future strategy.
6. We must take responsibility for our actions and understand that we create our own success or failure.
7. We must not blame others around us for our losses or failing strategies.
8. We must determine our weaknesses and make a true effort to turn those into strengths.
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